《高效能人士的七个习惯》是我非常欣赏的一本书，这是一个系列

越墮落。越快樂

《高效能人士的七个习惯》是我非常欣赏的一本书，这是一个系列，把七个习惯应用在工作关系上，家庭关系上，还给小孩子们和青少年各出了一本书。



我儿子小学四年级的时候我给他买了《高效能孩子的七个习惯》，他挺喜欢的，读了好几遍。他当时学的比较好的是“delay gratification”和“be responsible for your fun (being proactive)”,书很简单，有趣，他自己读的，悟也是自己悟的。
其中里面的一个关于人际关系他是这么阐述的，人与人的关系是三个阶段：dependent --〉independent--〉interdependent.
从依赖，到独立，到最后学会跟人建立比较亲密的关系。在那之前，我一直致力于培养独立的风范，学完那本书之后才开始转向学习怎么跟周围建立和谐的关系，据他说，能够学会有效处理矛盾和冲突，能够处理好各项关系才是人真正强大的开始。

记得我当时是这么慨叹的：我刚刚爬出依赖的大坑，努力迈进独立的领域，您就让我再游回去，还有没有天理啊。。。。。
游回去并且还游刃有余的人，请一定站出来，接受我的大礼。


the seven habits of highly effective teens

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families

The 7 Habits of Happy Kids

越墮落。越快樂

人与人的关系是三个阶段：dependent --〉independent--〉interdependent.
从依赖，到独立，到最后学会跟人建立比较亲密的关系。

越墮落。越快樂

Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

(Stephen Covey)



1. Be Proactive

"Taking initiative does not mean being pushy, obnoxious, or

aggressive. It does mean recognizing our responsibility to make

things happen."



2. Begin With the End in Mind

"(This habit)...is based on imagination-- the ability to envision, to see the potential, to

create with our minds what we cannot at present see with our eyes..."



3. Put First Things First

"Create a clear, mutual understanding of what needs to be accomplished, focusing on

what, not how; results not methods. Spend time. Be patient. Visualize the desired result."



4. Think Win-Win

"Win-Win is a frame of mind that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human

interactions. Win-Win means that agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial and

satisfying."



5. Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

"'Seek First to Understand' involves a very deep shift in paradigm. We typically seek first

to be understood. Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with

the intent to reply. They're either speaking or preparing to speak. They're filtering

everything through their own paradigms, reading their autobiography into other people's

lives."



6. Synergize

"Synergy works; it's a correct principle. It is the crowning achievement of all the previous

habits. It is effectiveness in an interdependent reality-- it is teamwork, team building, the

development of unity and creativity with other human beings."



7. Sharpening the Saw

"This is the habit of renewal...It circles and embodies all the other habits. It is the habit of

continuous improvement...that lifts you to new levels of understanding and living each of

the habits."

有你泰克

高就是和低不同，
高效人士都风风火火，不管不顾，一鼓作气，集中注意 那种人，想到容易 做到难，
所以 高！实在是高啊～

AUGUSTUS

嘴巴甜一点，脑筋活一点，行动快一点，效率高一点，做事多一点，说话轻一点，微笑多一点。